Prince Harry recalls fight with Meghan Markle that led him to seek therapy
Prince Harry has reportedly been reflecting on the falling out with his wife Meghan Markle, which encouraged him to seek therapy.
In his forthcoming memoir, Spare, Harry opened up about the ups and downs of his relationship with Meghan, who he married in 2018. According to an excerpt from Us Weekly, the Duke of Sussex described a particular fight in which he vented his anger at the better of him.
“Maybe the wine went to my head. Perhaps the weeks of fighting the press had worn me down. For some reason I got touchy when the conversation took an unexpected turn,” he wrote in the book, which is due out January 10. “Then angry. Disproportionate, sloppy angry.”
The outlet reported that Harry wrote about taking something Meghan said “wrong” due to their cultural differences and a language barrier. He also admitted to speaking in an inappropriate way to the Duchess of Sussex and how he felt when he realized this.
“I was just overly sensitive that night too. I thought, ‘Why is she attacking me?’ I snapped at her, addressing her harshly [and] cruel,” Harry continued. “As the words left my mouth, I could feel everything in the room come to a standstill. The sauce stopped bubbling, the air molecules stopped circling. Even Nina Simone seemed to pause.”
Harry went on to recall how the Suits actor walked out of the room after the argument, leading him to believe she had been gone for “a full 15 minutes”. He claimed he then found her in her bedroom, where Meghan asked her husband what prompted him to behave this way.
“She was calm but said in a calm, even tone that she would never bear to be spoken to like that,” he wrote. “I nodded. She wanted to know where it came from. [She asked,] “Where have you ever heard a man speak to a woman like that? Did you hear adults talk like that growing up?’ I cleared my throat and looked away [and responded]’Yes.'”
The king then shared that his wife had told him she would not “tolerate” a husband or co-parent who yelled like he did. Harry and Meghan are parents of two: Archie, four, and Lilibet, one.
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“She didn’t want to raise children in an atmosphere of anger or disrespect,” he wrote. “She made everything super clear.”
He then noted that both he and Meghan “knew” his anger wasn’t triggered by their conversation. With that in mind, he then recalled the discussion they had about therapy and how the Duchess had encouraged him to do it.
“It came from somewhere deep inside, somewhere that needed to be dug up, and it was obvious I could use some help with the work.” He continued. “I tried therapy,” I told her. “Willy [Prince William] told me to go. Never found the right person.’ [It] did not work. “No,” she said softly. ‘Try again.'”
According to Us Weekly, Harry then described his brother’s thoughts on therapy, claiming the Prince of Wales once made fun of his sibling when he was worried.
“I was agoraphobic. Which was almost impossible given my public role. After a speech that could not be avoided or canceled and almost fainted at me, Willy approached me backstage. Laugh,” Harry reportedly claims in Spare. “‘Harold! Look at you! You’re soaked,’” Harry explained on Spare.
In his forthcoming memoir, Harry reportedly shares another revelation about therapy and how he turned to it after a physical altercation with his brother. In an excerpt reported by The Guardian, Harry writes that the fight began when William called Meghan “difficult”, “rude” and “abrasive”. He claims things escalated when William grabbed his collar, ripped off his necklace and “punched” him to the ground, causing the Duke to fall onto the dog’s bowl, with the shards digging into his back.
Harry noted that while he didn’t contact his spouse immediately after that fight, he did choose to call his therapist. He claimed he didn’t tell his wife about the argument until she noticed the “grazes and bruises” on his back.